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6 peaceful ways to break-up with your partner

The beginning of our relationships with those we love is always romantic and full of expectations. It seems our happiness and mutual understanding will last forever. 

However, when some time passes you may realize that this guy/lady is not the one you were looking for and your feelings begin to fade.  

It is never easy to tell your partner that you want to break up, choose carefully the most appropriate way to do this in order to avoid stressful situations. The following tips may help you with a peaceful breakup.

1. Meet them in person
Most times, the best way to say goodbye to your lover is to meet them eye to eye. Surely, it will not be a pleasant thing to do. Sometimes, when you see them in person you may lose all your courage and give way to numerous temptations like kissing. Finally, your intentions will come to nothing and you’ll continue relationship that doesn’t have future. That’s why I would recommend you to meet your partner in a public place like a café or a park. It will give you a nice opportunity to discuss the problem without arguing.

2. Talk to them over the Phone
In case you are not brave enough to announce your desire while looking into your lover's eyes, it would be better to call and tell them everything directly. This way, you will feel more comfortable and confident without being afraid to express your thoughts openly. As an alternative, you can choose to send a message, though, it will not be respectful. When you hear his/her voice, you’ll be able to explain the reason of your decision and answer questions. Keep your conversation short and be tactful with your interlocutor.

3. Move On
There are some situations in our life, when we don’t have to say anything. Sometimes our actions can tell about us even more than words. Perhaps all you need is to move to another place and stay there for a certain period of time or even forever. If you live in a big city, you may simply move to another district so that you will be unreachable to your ex and he/she will understand that you escaped from them. By moving out of the town you’ll have a wonderful chance to think over your relationship, widen your outlook and leave negative emotions behind. Furthermore, it is a great way to avoid unpleasant talks with your partner and giving reasons.

4. Send an Email to Your Lover
This is one of the most polite and official ways to inform a partner that you are not interested anymore. I have a few girlfriends who broken up with their guys with the help of email and I should say it was quite a successful experience for them. 
When you compose a letter, you have enough time to muse about all the details and give voice to your thoughts that are worth mentioning. Consequently, you’ll get a response from your lover and it will provide a reciprocal agreement for you. Writing an email will allow you to end your relationship in a civil way.

5. Don’t Make Excuses
Once you’ve chosen to leave your partner, there is no way back. It means you have a number of problems that arouse distrust and hostility between the two of you. It is impossible to continue your relations if they make you unhappy and sad. One way or another, you should give valid reasons why you want to break up and keep in mind that weak excuses will not work. Thus, it is necessary to state clearly all things you are not satisfied with and think thoroughly to give well-grounded answers. Don’t be aggressive and use the words that will not humiliate your partner.


6. Don’t try to make-up 
You took pains to move to another stage of your life and this break up was terrible for you, but eventually you’ve reached your goal and you are free now. Undoubtedly, you will meet your ex later and some will try to make a compromise and start again at every possible opportunity. It will be unreasonable to go back since you’ve already weighed all pros and cons. You will not change your lover – his/her bad sides will cause your disaffection and hostility in future. Be confident about your decision and leave without regret.

Hope these tips help those who are presently struggling in a relationship they are not comfortable with

1 comment:

  1. Well said,Well said *in stewie's voice* but i dont agree with No 2,talk on phone about how you want out of the relationship,naaa it shows that person is a coward,and for text,it means one is childish and he or she would keep that until you meet again and as for No 4,HELL O,dont ever do that as a person..and the rest agreed.

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